Wilfulness vs Willingness#

Distress ToleranceWeek 4

Wilfulness	Willingness
Trying to control a situation	Reacting effectively, appropriately & mindfully
Not being open to change	Working with the hand you’re dealt
Not doing what works	Purposeful actions to make improvements
Refusing compromise	Prioritising safety & commitment
Not considering others	Focusing on needs
Acting with poor intentions	Using skills to face situations head-on

What might be getting in the way of being willing?#
- Fear
- Emotional dysregulation
- Stress/overwhelm
- Self-doubt
- Task paralysis
- Distraction
- Basic needs not being met first
- Lack of structure/planning
- Expectations of others
- Struggling to identify own needs

How to be willing#

Notice the urge to show willingness
Radically accept any urges to act with wilfulness
Ask yourself:
- What’s the threat?
- What’s the barrier?
- What can I do to be effective?
  - Work smarter, not harder
  - Spend time & thoughts mindfully
  - Think before acting