The Importance of Self-Talk#
Emotional RegulationWeek 6▶️ Positive Self-Talk| Psych Hub
What counts as “negative self-talk”?#
Examples of negative self-talk include:
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- Personalising (“it’s all my fault” or “I don’t deserve to be happy”)
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- Filtering (“Nobody cares about me”, “nobody wants to be around me” or “nobody trusts me”)
Negative self-talk can also be (and in my case mainly is) falsely considered as genuine belief. For example:
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- “I am a false, disingenuous and selfish person, with no authentic care for the wellbeing of others besides myself”
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- “Any care or love I show towards other people is inherently selfish, with the explicit goal of manipulating them not to leave me”
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- “My value as a human is not inherent, but is a carefully fabricated mask, used to feed on the joy of others for my own selfish gain”
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- “Any happiness I experience is false by definition, as it is built on a selfish endeavour to be happy at the expense of manipulating those around me to feel that I am worthy of that happiness”
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- “Any validation or comfort I attempt to receive from others is further proof that I am undeserving of it; any actions I take to receive comfort only prove that the ‘comfort’ I received is inauthentic”