Walking the Middle Path#

Interpersonal EffectivenessWeek 8

Obstacles for maintaining healthy relationships#

    • Lack of communication
    • Guilt
    • Judgement
    • Shame
    • Emotions
    • Lack of trust
    • Being indecisive
    • Worry & doubt

Remember: It takes two people to maintain a relationship.

Dialectics#

Dialectics refer to the idea of a dialogue between two (or more) people holding different points of view. This concept is important to maintaining consistent & healthy relationships with those around you. It teaches us that:

    • There’s always more than one way to see a situation, and more than one way to solve a problem.
    • Everyone has unique qualities & points of view.
    • Change is the only constant.
    • Honour the truth on both sides. Avoid seeing a situation in black & white, all or nothing.

How to Walk the Middle Path#

  • Practise all sides of a situation & give yourself space to evaluate it.
  • Check your assumptions; always ask questions if you’re uncertain about something.
  • Use descriptive words to explain thoughts & feelings.

An important note: Sometimes people have opinions that are inherently harmful, based in feelings rather than facts. This can be in any situation, whether it be a relationship breakdown, family disagreements or even political discourse.

Their harmful opinion does not justify their harmful actions.

In situations like this, ensure that you always:

  • Evaluate safety; is it safe to advocate for yourself here? Or is it safer to leave this situation as soon as possible.
  • Only if it’s safe to do so, advocate for yourself. Stand for what you believe in.
  • Only if it’s safe to do so, make space for yourself & your opinion, even when others disagree.
  • If you ever feel unsafe, always prioritise leaving the situation immediately.
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