Wilfulness vs Willingness#
Distress ToleranceWeek 4▶️ Willingness | Resiliens
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Wilfulness Willingness Trying to control a situation Reacting effectively, appropriately & mindfully Not being open to change Working with the hand you’re dealt Not doing what works Purposeful actions to make improvements Refusing compromise Prioritising safety & commitment Not considering others Focusing on needs Acting with poor intentions Using skills to face situations head-on -
What might be getting in the way of being willing?#
- Fear
- Emotional dysregulation
- Stress/overwhelm
- Self-doubt
- Task paralysis
- Distraction
- Basic needs not being met first
- Lack of structure/planning
- Expectations of others
- Struggling to identify own needs
How to be willing#
- Notice the urge to show willingness
- Radically accept any urges to act with wilfulness
- Ask yourself:
- What’s the threat?
- What’s the barrier?
- What can I do to be effective?
- Work smarter, not harder
- Spend time & thoughts mindfully
- Think before acting